In the words of the old song, "walking back to
happiness, walking back to love."
If you've broken up, that's partly what you want to do.
Probably you also partly want to kill your ex, but that's another issue.
Or maybe it's not another issue, maybe it's the real issue.
That actually, all along, you were really angry with your ex-for things
they didn't do, and perhaps even the things they did do.
Like they never listened to you, or they disrespected your opinions, or
they always thought they knew best, or they never listened to what you
wanted ... I mean think about it -- there are millions of things that
could be getting in the way of you and your partner making up.
So question number one: do you really want to make up?
Was your partner your soulmate. Could your partner sorry, your
ex-partner, be your soulmate?
Is there any chance that you made a terrible mistake and you should
never have broken up?
If so, do you know anything about how to get back together?
And could you do that without going back into the angry, fearful, shame,
guilt ridden, unaccepting, judgmental, critical place you were in
I mean, you were in that place, right? I assume you are in that place because
if you weren't why would you have broken up?
Something to think about there -- that might be a clue as to whether you
really could get back with your partner or not.
But, having said that, let's assume that you have decided you want to get
back together with your ex-partner.
Whatcha going to do to make that happen?
What can you do to overcome the grief, pain, the lack of communication,
the resentments and all the other throngs that your partner invested in
Sorry, of course you were the one who was right all along -- I forgot
that for a minute!
Now: stop fooling yourself! The truth is, it takes 2 to tango, and it
takes 2 to make a relationship, and it takes 2 to
break it up.
So if your relationship has broken up we can reasonably assume you're 50%
to blame -- even if you don't think you are.
That means you bear 50% of the responsibility for making up -- and if you want
to and your partner doesn't, then clearly you'll have to carry 100%
of the responsibility of making up.
What does that mean in practice?
1) You have to be
more emotionally intelligent than you were in the first place, or it's
never going to work.
2) You have to find out some ways in which you can get back together
with your partner without being threatening or abusive, guilty or needy.
3) You have to learn some techniques that will allow you to avoid the
emotional difficulties that you faced in the first place, that were
presumably responsible for you breaking up when you did.
And how are you going to do that?
counseling with your ex-partner? That's an interesting
suggestion! Maybe you'd like to try asking your ex-boyfriend, or your
ex-girlfriend, if they'd like to undertake couples' counseling with you,
just to see what they say....
And of course it's possible they might say "yes", in which case your
problems are almost over -- I mean, let's face it, if somebody is willing
to go to counseling with you, then they're probably willing to get back
together with you.
Of course that doesn't alter the job you have to do: which is basically
about finding a way to re-establish communication, about finding a way to
be more emotionally intelligent with each other, and above all, to stop
projecting all your negative stuff onto your partner and thinking it's
So; not necessarily the easiest thing in the world, I know, but I guess if you
need to get back together with your ex-partner badly enough, you're going to do it.
And that's where I might be able to help you: because Text Your Ex Back
is an incredible system about texting your ex. It truly is a revolutionary
system by which you can actually re-establish a relationship through
using SMS text messages. I know that sounds a crazy notion, but believe it
or not -- it does work. You really can
Text Your Ex Back. How does it
Basically you use a series of highly ordered and systematic text messages,
each of which is designed to convey a different impression and a different
message. They're unemotional, they're detached, they're objective, and
they really give you the opportunity to say what you want to say
without provoking anger, grief, fear or anything else.
A serious analysis of the online program can be found on my very own website,
which is linked to below. See if it might possibly be the
thing that you want or need to a have better relationship with someone
new or with your ex-partner.
The Adonis Golden Ratio
This is a wonderful program for
men who are dissatisfied with their weight or body shape, as it is a
superb way of losing weight fast.
We all know that dieting for men
is a touchy subject -- men like to think that they know best about all
health and relationship issues, although they might do well to take advice
from women occasionally!
In fact, one of the most
predominant and successful dieting and weight loss programs for women,
called the Venus Factor, has been written by John Barban, a man who's also
specialized in weight training, diet and exercise for men. (Read about the
Venus Factor here:
So how many calories do you need?
Although this could hardly be
considered as a way in which men can take advice from women, it's
interesting that John Barban has recognized that dieting and weight loss
for men and women must be specialized to the sex in question.
It's no use trying to use a
commonplace diet program such as the Atkins diet, or any random 12 week,
10 pound weight loss diet that you can find on the Internet, for both men
and women. This approach simply is not going to work, because both genders
have specific requirements as far as physiology and health is concerned -
I mean there is no one diet plan that suits all.
Now, our expert John Barban has
recognized this, as I say, in that he has written the Venus Factor for
women, and the Adonis Golden Ratio for men. These are interesting programs
that recognize the
differences in physiology and biology between the sexes: for example,
for women, the activity of the fat burning hormone leptin is absolutely
critical in attempting to slim, lose weight, or even to adopt a better
body shape -- which is not necessarily linked to the specific issue of
losing weight as quickly as possible.
Most women, says John Barban,
look at their best when they have between 20 and 30% body fat, whereas men
achieve an ideal toned look at between
10 and 20% body fat.
This difference is fundamental
to the approach which both men and women need to take when they are
dieting or trying to adopt a better body shape.
You see, the thing is, with the
leptin resistance that women commonly experience, it's actually quite hard
for a woman to lose weight even if she's on a diet -- which generally
means that the diet is ineffective, and her motivation decreases, and she
fails to lose weight quickly.
A much better approach is to
adopt a number of approaches that can increase the sensitivity of her body
to leptin, since her own natural hormone is by far the most effective
medium for achieving weight loss.
In the Venus Factor, John
outlines three different ways in which a woman's body's sensitivity to
leptin can be increased,
ranging from the use of nutritional supplements, to a particular exercise
For men, things seem to be much
more straightforward -- the Adonis Golden Ratio seems to explain in simple
terms an approach to dieting and weight loss which men can adopt
successfully. Now having said that, to reduce body fat around 10% is
perhaps just as much of a challenge ultimately as losing weight is for a
woman, but men are supported in their objectives by a well tried and
tested regime that John has evolved over many years.
He is an expert in sports
science, nutritional supplementation, exercise physiology, and other
disciplines to do with health and fitness and nutrition.
This experience has enabled him
to adopt an exercise program from men which allows them to obtain the
maximum rate of weight loss over a 12 week period, using carefully defined
goals and objectives to ensure that the speed with which they achieve
their objectives is maximized.
Critical to John's approach in
all cases, is a nutritional supplementation regime devised for the
individual client, along with an exercise regime which are similarly tune
to the needs of every individual. It's this combination of technology and
rigorous science which has enabled John to achieve the premier position in
the weight loss market on the Internet today.
As you can see from the
testimonials that are available on websites around the Internet, there's
no question that sticking to a goal or objective and using a steady and
reliable program of exercise and weight loss can make a huge difference to
everyone's outcome and achievement -- the difference being, that in this
case the objectives are actually achieved!
Video - The Key To Dieting Success
Now, I don't wish to be cynical
about other people's diet programs, and I think perhaps it's best to limit
observations to the success rate of people on these diet, because when all
is said and done, that is the objective measurement of whether or not a
diet and exercise program is going to lead you to you weight loss goals. [
Barban's success rate = 70+ %. ]
One of the clients that I
recommended these programs to suggested that the use of an individualized
dieting weight loss programs to be something of a "con", on the grounds
that in fact all one is doing is feeding in height weight and some other
measurements, and getting out a "personalized" exercise program.
This criticism misses the point:
the program is personalized because different somatotypes fall into
different classifications of height, weight, or waist size, chest size,
and so on. We know that each of those somatotypes have distinctly
different requirements of exercise and diet to maintain a healthy body.
John's contention is that
everybody basically has an ideal body under the fat, and that it simply
disguised by the amount of fat each person carries: you'll see that this
observation means that regardless of your overall size, in terms of height
at least, that you fundamentally have an ideal body shape which is waiting
to be released from the fat which currently hides it. The Venus Factor and
Adonis Golden ratio can do this for you. Read about the Adonis Golden
- these are sites which will give you all the information you could
possibly need on the best way to lose weight quickly for men.